▼How to Take Control of Your Happiness▼
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The Misunderstanding of Happiness (103)
THE FOLLOWING COMPRISE THE BREAKTHROUGH IDEAS
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The same four Aerodynamic Principles that keep an airplane soaring and from crashing apply to happiness. They are:
Most people in life fall within at least one of the above categories. To be happy and well on your way to achieving your best potential in life, make sure you're spending your time with Lifters and Thrusters (explained above).
Pay attention to who you spend your time with. Do they motivate you, thrust you, challenge you, lift you, inspire you, leave you better off than you were before?
Weights and Drags are 'high maintenance' people. Be especially wary of high maintenance people because they're impossible to please or keep happy.
Evaluate your relationships. You've got enough drama in your life as it is. You can't afford to entertain 'Drama Kings' and 'Drama Queens' (DKs/DQs) daily, unnecessarily...taking in their negativity...allowing yourself to be entangled with them. You cannot soar towards your destiny in life while simultaneously entangled with Weights and Drags.
Weights and Drags are high maintenance people with a perpetual problem. Don't make the mistake of letting their problems ,be your problem. Set some boundaries.
One of the greatest freedoms in life is having the courage to cut, and free yourself of/from the wrong, so-called 'companions', crowd, herd, mob, people, or tribe. Quit walking and living on eggshells afraid you're going to offend people and/or fall out of their favor. You're not here to live a lie, live a double life, subscribe to gimmickry and/or scheme demonology.
You're here to be happy. To contribute to humanity's betterment and happiness. But most importantly, to fulfill your destiny. High maintenance people are energy suckers who will treat you like a garbage dump and dump their trash on you, if you allow them to. And you cannot go where God is leading you with them constantly weighing you down.
If somebody is currently controlling or manipulating you, it is NOT their fault. It is your fault.
There's a fine line between taking in, and letting people who make poor choices face the consequences of their poor decisions and judgment on the one hand, and being a reliable companion or relative. Their urgency due to a lifetime of poor choices is not your emergency. Don't take on that false of responsibility that says you're responsible for other people's happiness. Don't enable other people's dysfunction. Focus on, and fix your own dysfunctions! It's hard enough keeping happy managing the drama in your life.
Is there something making you unhappy? 'Somebody controlling you and making you feel guilty because you stick to your values and don't cater to their needs? Are you busy trying to make everybody unhappy; hard at work trying to fit in, stay relevant, not miss out?
Quit responding to them every time they throw a fit. Cut the puppet strings. Whether it's a family member or longtime friend. Sometimes we want desperately to actively, meaningfully help people to change. We want to fix them. But the reality is: some people DON'T WANT to be fixed. So maybe, it's time for them to be unhappy.
If they, no matter how great their number (family, friends, group, work culture, etc.) get upset because you choose an ethical path and put your foot don, they are not friends. They are not understanding companions. They are manipulators. Weights and Drags. And it's time to change where you do business, hangout, whose text or phone calls you respond to.
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Breakthrough Ideas 2013 Series
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