Whatever your religious beliefs, not having what I call 'Advanced Personal Leadership' skills (see #2 below) makes one susceptible to bad advice, bad role models, and bad, or tragic life choices.
When you read about celebrities or successful people who although seem(ed) to have it all engage in self-destructive behavior, mental health or not, one reason is that: Their environment didn't give them robust building blocks. Or, they didn't (know how to) actively seek it.
Coping mechanisms aside, Emotional Intelligence matters. Not just in human relationship success but importantly, if you're serious about adopting good behavior. Most people's idea of good behavior is whatever a friend, leader, political party, someone they follow or admire, or a media outlet they subscribe to is doing, —and how that behavior, however outlandish, can be justified.
In general, people will tell you — implicitly or explicitly — how to treat them. But good behavior includes mastering the good judgment to avoid getting duped while empowering others, and yourself. And this is as true in private, as well as in professional or business circles.
The late Dr. Myles Munroe helps you with the first (see feature video above), while John Perry Barlow completes the last couple (at the end of the page). Images hyperlinked. Here are my 5 building blocks:Character vs. Charisma
Know and live the difference.
I've counseled people in their 80s who learned the building blocks of good decision-making too late in life. I personally learned some of the lessons after my 20s. You have a chance to avoid such mistakes.
Iwan Rheon who played Ramsay Bolton in the Game of Thrones, famously said something to the effect of: “If you like me, you have serious issues.”
Similarly, data and evidence is abundant. No need for links. Particularly for those not living under repressed regimes: If you like 'leaders' or characters like Donald Trump, Vladimir Putin, Xi Jinping, Rodrigo Duterte, or Kim Jong-Un, to name a few, you have serious issues. Why?
Remember the feature image quote above.
As Lord Varys right says: “Any fool with a bit of luck can find himself born into power. But earning it for yourself, that takes work.”
What is your brand, your vision? What kind of individual, leader or parent do you want to be?
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